Big Love

This whole time I thought we will have a huge discussion on Othello and even wrote a blog about Othello until I saw other people's post and realized that we should be reading "Big Love" instead. I was glad that "Big Love" was a easy reading and I could understand the play much easily due to the usage of colloquial language. After reading about many love stories and especially analyzing Medea, I think this play has given new dynamics to the meaning of love. It was really sad as the brides killed their grooms to take revenge on  forcing them to get married. Lydia and Nikos' relationship in the play showed us that love is above all the rights. Even though Lydia agreed to kill her husband along with her forty nine sisters, her realization about the meaning of love has prevented her from killing Nikos and she valued love over the her rights. This realization has given her reasons not to kill Nikos as she figured that her feelings toward Nikos were not to gain rights but rather a mutual love relationship.

This play has portrayed equal values to the role of both man and woman in love. To have a successful relationship, it is really important to have mutual understanding and love from both sides. It was not clear whether other grooms felt the same love as Nikos did towards Lydia, except Constantine who wanted to marry forcefully to fulfill his dream. As readers, we did not get to know the characters well enough and there was not enough conversation to judge them all as equally. What was most interesting that, both men and women were blaming each other for the lack of love, and it is very common problem in any relationship. Another point was that, sometimes people does not not realize what they are loosing or what they want out of themselves because they constantly listen to other rather listening to their own feelings. Olympia was a perfect example of a confused persona in the play, since she never used her own judgement to do anything. In a way, this play serves as a modern tale of love and proves that nobody can be forced to love against their will.